What Do Warren Buffet and Tony Robbins Have in Common?

Last week, I wished you a week of consistently living your “just for today” list. The point was that if you live each day without regret then in the tough times, you can embrace the sorrow and move on. How did you do and how are you doing? Remember, this is a process not just a onetime exercise.

What do you think Tony Robbins and Warren Buffet would say was THE best investment they ever made? “Tony Robbins went from working as a janitor to being a multi-millionaire who sells inspiration for a living. Warren Buffet, one of the most successful investors of all time, is currently worth almost $75 billion.

Both of these legendary businessmen say THE best investment they ever made was not a stock or financial asset. It was a class.”

Did you guess this? Through a class taught by Jim Rohn; one of the greatest motivators, speakers and authors of his time, taught Robbins that the most important work he could do in his life was working on himself.”

Instead of focusing on all the things out of his control, Rohn’s message was to focus on what WAS in his control. AND as Urban Meyer talks about in his book Above the Line, taking responsibility for your actions is what is in our control. The blaming, complaining, and defending our actions is below the line and does not move us forward.

“I could improve myself; I could find a way to serve, a way to do more, a way to become better, a way to add value,” writes Robbins in his book Money: Master the Game. Notice that his learning helped him realize that by himself learning and growing and becoming better; he could, in turn, impact so many others. He was taking total control over what was in his control. He didn’t spend a lot of time blaming his upbringing, or all his struggles. He focused on learning new skills, learning what successful people do and duplicating those actions rather than listening to the naysayers trying to hold him back. He learned to surround himself with positive people.

“Buffet learned a similar lesson. He was terrified of public speaking when he was young. To force himself to face his fears, at age 20, Buffet signed up for a public speaking course with the Dale Carnegie Institute.” He didn’t stop there. “After graduating from the course, Buffet went to the University of Omaha and, to fully overcome his phobia, he asked to teach a class.” You can find more information in Tim Ferriss’s book Tools of the Titans which is about the habits and processes of successful people.

According to Buffet, “there’s no financial investment that’ll ever match investing in yourself. If you develop more skills more abilities, more insight, more capacity, that’s what’s going to really provide economic freedom…It’s those skill sets that really make that happen.”

So what can we all learn from these two giants who are yes, exceedingly wealthy in the financial arena? First and foremost, their success did not happen overnight, it did not happen in a couple weeks or a couple months. Their success DID come because of hard work, learning, failing and learning more, focus, and consistently persevering despite what others were saying. They did NOT stop learning and growing despite their financial achievements. 

In fact, they both continue to be voracious readers and learners even today.

Buffet is now 86 and Robbins is 57. Wouldn’t’ it be easier to kick back and enjoy life because “you’ve made it?”   These are men who have impacted the lives of so many others through their mentoring, through their philanthropic focus, through their abilities to reach a wide variety of people in their speaking engagements etc.

Both of these men have had an attitude of doing “whatever it takes.” They saw advantages not obstacles. They didn’t use excuses when there was failure, they used those failures to learn and adjust. They found mentors, coaches, successful people as role models as they understood that what they focused on was what expanded.

If the greatest investment, according to Warren Buffet and Tony Robbins, is to invest in yourself, how much are YOU investing in YOURSELF? Are you where you want to be financially? Are you where you want to be being able to give to nonprofits or other organizations that are important to you? Are you where you want to be in your relationships with your spouse/significant other, your children, your parents, your colleagues etc? 

Are you finding that you use your age, your difficult situations, your struggles with relationships, your lack of money etc. as excuses? Do you find yourself focusing on lack and obstacles OR do you focus on pushing through those obstacle to move forward without excuses?

My personal opinion is your focus to be The Best You that You Can Be will be a direct reflection on the actions you take toward investing in yourself.

What are you reading? Who are the people you’re surrounding yourself with? What are you listening to? Are you dedicated to listening to personal development CD’s etc. while you’re driving? Do you have an educational fund which would allow you to take a class or attend a seminar?

If you believe that Buffet and Robbins are correct that the greatest investment is investing in yourself then how do you rate yourself in investing in yourself?

The first step is to decide whether investing in yourself is important to you. If it is important then take the time to rate where you stand TODAY with a focus on investing in yourself. Be honest. If you say it’s important, then your true focus will be to take action.

That action might be to read or listen to a book from Tony Robbins, Jim Rohn, or others. It might be to change what you’re listening to in the car, it might be to look for a class or a seminar, etc.

Each week, as I write these blogs, I wonder how many people are truly wanting to take action in making the most of each day and improving themselves. It’s the 80/20 rule. 80% of the people reading these will possibly make a slight change for a short time. 20% of the people will actually take action and make that action a habit. Which one are you? 80% or 20%?

I wish you a week of deciding if investing in yourself is THE best investment you can make in yourself and what action you are willing to commit to on a consistent basis until it becomes a habit. I look forward to hearing from you.

Next Step - Breakthroughs

I hope you had a week of reflection and a chance to "analyze your soil" in at least one area of your life.  Granted this is probably one of the hardest times of the year to even take 20 minutes for one’s own reflection. The “to do” list seems endless with little time left before it’s crunch time.  Teachers are preparing their classroom for another school year, coaches are getting ready to welcome their student/athletes back for another football season, some of you are preparing for your child’s kindergarten experience or your oldest is getting ready to head off to college for their first year which also translates into the entire family beginning something new as well.  Needless to say, it’s critical YOU do take the opportunity, if you haven't already, to reflect and analyze where you are and where you want to go before moving on.

The past couple months I’ve talked about where you are in various parts of your life: starting something new, being in the middle, or an ending of some kind. Then there have been the life lessons you can learn from our farmers.  Lots to think about, but once again, no matter how much you learn unless there’s ACTION nothing will CHANGE. As I said last week, the word change may be a word you embrace and it’s a part of your daily thinking. Others, however, are still fearful as it means things will be different.  Yes, exactly, that’s the point.  How boring would life be if nothing ever changed?  Even listing the various examples above, change is all around us whether we like it or not.  The difference is our mindset – embrace the change or fight it.

Two young women I have met are currently dealing with change on a deep, personal level.  Both have had to face the death of their husband in the past year and both have a son.  They are truly an inspiration for me as I read their FB reflections.  Each has been on a journey of change.  Not one they have chosen, obviously, but a change in every aspect of their life and the life of their son.  Neither woman knows the other, however, their journey has taken on similar experiences, feelings, with the path being a difficult one.  Their posts share those times of being scared, the emotional roller coaster of sadness, positive reflections and memories of their spouse, their celebrations of their spouse’s life, their life together and their life as parents. Part of their journey means daily challenges and changes. There is that first year of “firsts.”  How do you deal with the first birthday with the person gone?  The first Father’s Day?  The first Christmas, Valentines Day? The first anniversary with the person gone?  It’s been my observation these two women have a mindset of overcoming, a mindset of being present with whatever is happening at the moment, but then also a mindset of moving forward.

What I have also observed, from afar, is both women (1) take care of themselves so their mind and body can face each day, (2) they don’t apologize for their feelings rather those feelings are embraced for a time, (3) they involve and honor their child’s needs and support them on their journey without their dad, (4) they have a strong support group of friends and family who they are not afraid to call on for help, and (5) since this is a process there have also been breakthroughs. 

Tony Robbins defines breakthrough as “a moment in time when the impossible becomes possible…you make a move to truly change and improve your world.”  John Maxwell describes breakthrough as “handling adversity long enough, having stamina long enough that there will be a breakthrough.” The analogy is when you’re flying through thick, dense clouds and visibility is almost zero.  Feelings of anxiety, fear, loneliness, begin to take over.  In the middle of these clouds, it’s hard to see that there will ever be an end.  Often times just when it seems to be a never ending gloominess, change happens. Your mindset changes to one of persistence, a willingness to never give up, a belief rises.  With this new mindset, your “plane” also begins to rise, and you breakout into the sunshine. But, guess what? The sun was always there, you just couldn’t see it through the clouds. YOU took control over what you could control…your mindset. Maybe it was as simple as your support system gave you a boost and you were ready to breakthrough.  Things happen that are totally out of our control, but what is in our control is to not stay in the dense, dark clouds but to rise to reach the sunshine once again.  Both young women who find themselves as a widow at a very young age, have had many times in the dark clouds, but I also read about their reflections of hope and passion resurfacing – their breakthroughs.

What about you?  As you begin this fall with new beginnings, change, I hope you can reflect on the many breakthroughs you have had just in this past year. With the breakthrough there is new learning, new skills, new attitudes, new actions etc.  The sun is shining and the future looks bright.  If you’re truly one of the 5%, you realize the clouds of excuses, rationalizing, blame, guilt, and life without gratitude are only temporary.  Though you can’t see the sun, you know it’s there.  What will you do TODAY to rise above and change your location? Even when we're in the sunshine, there is always a higher place to strive to reach.  

I look forward to your comments, and I wish you a mindset of creating breakthroughs in your life.

BREAKTHROUGHS

What did you decide?  Are you one of the 5%?  Maybe you decided that you’re tired of being led by others, and you’re ready to move into the 5%.  Whatever your decision, you now must back it up with actions.  If you’re already part of the 5%, what actions have you taken in the past to get you there and what future actions will you take to continue on this path?  Learn and grow means it’s continual…you never stop until you’re done.  Be hyper aware of your thinking.  It’s called metacognition – think about your thinking.  What is that record constantly playing in your head? 

For you to become or maintain your 5% personal development, there have to be breakthroughs.  I will be sharing many quotes from Tony Robbins’ book, Money Master the Game as much of what he says “speaks to me.”  You decide, as always, what speaks to you.  (Pages 184-199 for those of you reading the book.) “So what is a breakthrough?  A breakthrough is a moment in time when the impossible becomes possible…you make a move to truly change and improve your world.”  The key is to truly change and improve your world.  The 95% will think about, dream about, and wish for, however, no action is taken.  However, when you reach the point of no longer settling it is amazing!  “Draw a line in the sand, commit to a new goal and set a new standard.”  “True transformation happens in a moment.  It may have taken you ten years to get to the point where you were ready or open, or maybe even provoked….”We struggle with something for years – a job or career, our weight, or a relationship.  We’re miserable until one day a trigger goes off.  Suddenly, That’s it. “

We have all had breakthroughs of one kind or another in our relationships, our physical self, our emotional self, our spiritual self, finances etc.  A breakthrough to move you forward is different than wishing things were different and making a change because the “grass looks greener” on the other side.  That way of thinking is back to the 95% who blame others and find excuses, with little if any acknowledgement the part they played in the problem which is exactly why life will eventually repeat itself without the necessary change – YOU!   We all have the ability to change everything in our lives.  “No matter how long something has been a certain way, you can change it all in a moment, a moment of real decision, a decision that is acted upon.”  Remember, the key is to truly change and IMPROVE your world.” 

According to Robbins, “There are three steps to creating a breakthrough: three forces that, together, can massively change any and every aspect of your life.”  These are the same three things no matter what kind of breakthrough you’re hoping to achieve.  If you want to change your life you have to change your strategy, you have to change your story, and you have to change your state.” 

“The best way to get a new result, the fastest way to get a new result is to find someone who has already accomplished what you’re after and then model his or her behavior.”  If weight is your issue, find someone who use to be overweight AND has not only been able to lose the weight but they've kept it off for 10+ years.  If you are struggling in your relationship, find someone who has rekindled the passion and is in love even more MANY years later.  You’re looking for successful models NOT those who want to tell you how to do something but haven’t achieved the success that you’re looking for.  It’s not luck.  It’s changing your strategy.  “The right strategy can save you the most valuable resource of all: time.  If you start with a proven plan, the right strategy, you can literally convert decades of struggle into days of achievement…why reinvent the wheel?”  We are all surrounded by family and friends who aren't physically fit, are in lousy relationships, are always blaming and using excuses.  If we continue to go to these people for “advice,” or if we listen to their advice, it will only serve to reinforce the beliefs we have that nothing will work.  WRONG!  Hopefully, you are realizing that you need support, a mentor, someone who will listen, give honest advice whether you like it or not, and you value who they are and the part they play in your life.

Unless you’re in an abusive relationship, all relationships go through struggles and challenging times.  A marriage with both parents working, a new born, young children etc. has its own set of challenges as does a marriage with negative influences being put upon one or both of the partners, if there’s addiction by one of the partners, children with disabilities either physical or cognitive etc. all cause marriages to be challenged.  From my own 38 years of marriage, there have definitely been ups and downs, challenges, frustrations, and demands.  The ups and downs are always there, but it’s how Jon and I made a point to find a strategy that would work to keep us together.  One strategy always involved communication which meant we had to make time for us.  That time together “looked” different when our kids were little, when they were teenagers, even when we were empty nesters still working, and now in retirement. Another strategy, if you will, was to focus on what was going right, what we loved about the other person, and the positive virtues rather than the “failings.”

Step number two, according to Tony, is the power of story.  “Without the right strategy, you will fail.  And when you fail, you develop a lousy story….If you’re not taking action there’s only one reason: you've created a set of beliefs that you've tied into a story – a story about why it won’t work, why it can’t work, why it only works for other people.  ‘It’s only for the rich, the thin, the lucky, the happy in relationships.’  It’s easy to come up with a limiting story.  So why bother to take action on a strategy that you ‘know’ will fail?  Well, strategy here isn't the problem.  Your story is.”

“The people who make change happen, who get stuff done, who accomplish, who shift, who grow, who learn, they take their strategy and attach a new story to it…It goes from being a story of limitation to a story of empowerment: ‘I will not be one of the many who can’t, I will be one of the few who do.  Our stories may be true, but if they aren't helping us, if they’re stopping us from having the life we desire and deserve, we have to change them.  Stories control our emotions, and emotions drive all of our behaviors and actions.”   Will you choose to use your story, or will you allow your story to use you?  “Change your story, change your life.  Divorce the story of limitations and marry the story of the truth, and everything changes.”

The last of the three steps is your state.  “Your mental and emotional state colors your perception and experience of everything in life.”  There is a lot to how we think and all that we need to learn about our thoughts but as Tony says, “in a nutshell you can immediately and radically change how you feel (and not just hope you feel good) by learning that by changing your body first, you can change your mind.” That means to do something active whether it’s taking a walk, going out to get fresh air, exercising, working out in some form, running, or whatever works for you.  It’s movement and it gets our heads into a better state. “Great strategies may surround you, but they will be invisible to you unless you put yourself in a strong, determined, and empowered state.” 

“We all get what we tolerate.  So stop tolerating excuses within yourself, limiting beliefs of the past, or a fearful state of mind.”  Once again, are you part of the 5%, one of the few?  Or are you going to continue to be one of the many, the 95%?  “Most people start out with high aspirations but settle for a life and lifestyle far beneath their true capabilities.  They let disappointments destroy them.  Disappointment is inevitable when you are attempting to do anything of great scale.  Instead let your disappointments drive you to find new answers; discipline your disappointments.  Learn from every failure, act on those learnings, and success becomes inevitable.”   

“You have to be willing to give 100% with zero expectation of receiving anything in return.  For example, only when you’re willing to take 100 % responsibility for making a relationship work will it work.,” according to Darren Hardy in his book, The Compound Effect.  “If I always take 100% responsibility for everything I experience – completely owning all of my choices and all the ways I responded to whatever happened to me – I held the power.  Everything was up to me.  I was responsible for everything I did, didn't do, or how I responded to what was done to me.”  That’s the mindset of a person striving to be one of the 5%. That's the mindset of a person who looks for different strategies, changes the story and has a state of mind that looks for answers.  That's the mindset of someone wanting breakthroughs in his/her life.

I wish you a mindset of creating breakthroughs  and being willing to give 100%.

Are you one of the 5%?

What are your thoughts and reflections on last week’s blog about the six basic needs suggested by Tony Robbins? Did anyone get the book, Money Master the Game?  Did you read at least the first 80 pages?  I’d be interested in hearing your thoughts.

Tony Robbins’ refers to certainty, taking risks, needing variety, love, growth, and that life is about contributing.  Why is it then that we encounter many challenges throughout our day where we may feel, as an individual, others don’t value who we are.  We are trying to live our lives with gratitude, we are challenging ourselves to learn and grow, we’re trying to improve things at work, at home, but it feels like the more we are moving ahead in our lives the more people are surrounding us with toxic negativity and trying to block our path.  It feels like others are intimidated by who we are, what we stand for and our intentions are often misinterpreted.  It becomes apparent that others just want us to conform, not make waves, and they want us to be like everyone else.  Don’t “rock the boat.”  When we “rock the boat” by our questions, our suggestions to do things differently than the status quo others feel their authority is being challenged, change is uncomfortable and often times feared etc.  People are into routines and “we've always done it ‘that’ way.”  Conflicts may arise simply by asking a question to a co-worker that escalates  into a huge argument.  Fingers are pointed, accusations of being selfish, along with angry words being thrown out. It’s now attack mode versus any type of discussion.  What about the person who is constantly listing all the things they do, they’re so busy, and no one works as hard as they do without any recognition of others who are also busy and have a lot on their plate? It doesn't seem to matter what we say or what we do, we can’t do anything right and it’s always our fault. 

My question is, “How do we read books about gratitude, learn and grow as a person, be willing to change, do something different, take risks, and be true to ourselves when we’re surrounded by others who only want to pull us down?”  “How do we move forward with our own expectations, dreams, goals, and creativity?”  What’s in our control?  What actions can we take?  Is there someone who can be a confidant, a supporter, a mentor, an encourager?  Someone who will be there through “thick and thin” yet also be honest with feedback and positive solutions?  How do we acknowledge that everyone’s judgment is just that…theirs.  We all see things from our own perspective.  The problem comes when it affects our own ability to do our job effectively, to create healthy relationships with our family members, or co-workers.  We may even find ourselves questioning ourselves.  What did we do to deserve this treatment? 

When I was younger I tried to please everyone, I didn't want to “rock the boat” and cause problems.  I was fortunate to have Jon supporting me and helping me understand that I had to be true to myself.  The only thing that was in my control was for me to be the best I could be as a teacher, a mother, a wife, a daughter etc. without arrogance, self-righteousness, or bragging. If my actions are pure and others are uncomfortable or intimidated so be it.  I’m only in control of me.  I had to learn to pick my battles and decide what was important enough that I couldn't let myself be intimidated by threats name calling, falsehoods etc.  Remember, only 5% of the population will “step out” and seek their own uniqueness, pursue their passion, not be motivated by others’ expectations but by their own expectations.  The 5% are also the people who are consistently moving forward, they don’t give up when the times are tough, they don’t give in because it’s easier than bucking the system. 

What can we do to be all that we can be while at the same time acknowledge there are people in our path who want to see us fail, want to see us conform, want to see us do what they think we should do etc. etc.?  First, let go of the little things and there are a lot of little things. It’s a waste of your time and energy.   Second, whenever possible, take the high road and do not bring yourself to their level.  Third, whenever possible sincerely compliment, say thank you, and let people know you appreciate what they do no matter how small.  Don’t expect anything in return.  By doing these things, you will feel good and the more you do it the easier it gets.  You might be surprised that others will begin to respond but that’s not why you’re doing it.  You’re doing it because it’s the right thing to do according to the six needs for your life.  Fourth, “don’t get in a pissing contest with a skunk,” as you will never win.  (That’s one of Jon’s favorite sayings.)  Fifth, find someone who will give you honest feedback, suggestions, and will allow you to vent.  We all need to vent, get things out, but then it’s time to let it go and move on. Six, if a conflict is getting out of hand, it’s not an appropriate time etc. let the person know you are going to walk away, and you’ll be ready to discuss the issue when everyone is calm.  Then you have to do what you said…walk away.  My final suggestion is to have something positive to listen to or to read EACH day. Turn off the TV for 15, 20 or 30 minutes to fill your head with something other than the negative “voices.”  There are many great CD’s you can download.  Listen to your breathing and just relax.  Calm your mind and body whether there’s conflict or not, it’s a special TLC time for yourself.  I think you will find that you will approach the rest of the day, the next day, the next week with a different perspective. 

Tony Robbins says, “The ultimate significance in life comes not from something external but from something internal.  It comes from a sense of esteem for ourselves, which is not something we can get from someone else.  People can tell you you’re beautiful , smart, the best, or they can tell you that you’re the most horrible human being on earth – but what matters is what YOU think about yourself.”  “The fastest way to feel connection, a sense of how significant your life is, a deep sense of certainty and variety, and put yourself in a state where you can give to others, is to find a way each day to appreciate more and expect less.” 

I wish you a healthy mindset of the 5%!! 

6 Basic Needs According to Tony Robbins

I hope you had a blessed Passover or Easter.  It’s a wonderful time of family, fellowship, and reflection.  Spring is here, the trees are budding, flowers are blooming and the temperatures are warming up.  It’s another great opportunity to realize all we are grateful for and how many blessings we do have in our daily lives.

As I come across a life changing book, I like to pass it along. This one is Money – Master the Game by Tony Robbins.  Tony is an American life success coach, speaker, and author.  He’s an amazing man who has transformed the lives of people like Oprah Winfrey and Usher as well as millions across the world who are just wanting to improve themselves.  He is authentic, a man of integrity, and has a mission of helping make life better for anyone who is willing to take action.  Unlike books others have written about financial freedom, Tony has taken a unique approach.  On the inside of the book jacket it reads, “Achieving genuine financial freedom isn't complicated.  But until now, only the most powerful and connected had access to the right information and the right strategies.  Thanks to exhaustive research and unprecedented interviews with 50 of the world’s most brilliant financial minds, from self-made billionaires to Nobel Prize winners, Tony Robbins has uncovered the 7 Simple Steps to put you in full control of your financial future.”  By the way, “all of the author’s profits of this book have been donated in advance by Tony, which in conjunction with an additional personal donation, will feed 50 million meals to people in need this year!  The food will be delivered by Feeding America, the nation’s largest domestic hunger relief charity.”   That, in and of itself, speaks volumes to me about his intentions.

Today, I want to focus on the early part of the book which “sets the stage.”  The book itself is 624 pages.  For some of you, that’s a daunting number, and you're already saying to yourself, “No way.  I’m not a reader.”  What I would challenge you to do, if that’s your reaction, is to read the first 80 pages.  He writes in an easy, storytelling manner.  Then you can decide if you're going to read further.  It’s also not a book that you just read.  He has you active in your own financial planning, and there’s even an app for your phone that does all the calculations.  Take your time to process and integrate this into your personal framework of thinking.

“Six Basic Needs” is an early part of the book that captured my attention right away.  Tony outlines these basic needs as “what makes us tick.”  These basic needs “drive all human behavior and are universal.”  What’s interesting is he states, “…how we value those needs, and in what order, determines the direction of our life.”  So what are these six basic needs?

The first basic need is Certainty/Comfort.  As Tony explains, this is “our need to feel in control, we want to know what’s coming next so we can feel secure.”  This is a basic comfort where we also like to avoid pain and stress.  What’s interesting is this “affects the amount of risk we are willing to take in our life, our job, investments, and relationships.  The higher the level of need for certainty the less risk we're willing to take.” We've probably all heard ‘risk tolerance’ which is where this term comes from. Take a minute and ask yourself where you are with this first basic need.  Are you on one level of comfort when it comes to certain areas of your life for example in your job, but less so in your relationships?  Good question to ask yourself.

The second basic need is Uncertainty/Variety.  If we didn’t have some level of uncertainty, variety and surprises, we would probably be bored to tears.  Don’t we all like surprises?  Of course, that is if they're good ones.  Those other surprises are usually what we’d refer to as problems.  Yes?  Yet, to have this in our lives also helps us develop character.

Next is Significance.  We all need to feel that we matter.  Feeling important, special, unique, feeling that we matter to others are all a part of our essence.  How does that manifest itself?  It’s different, obviously, for different people.  There are those people who find significance in their bank account, others show it through their education and sometimes it’s “the more the better” with a Masters or a Ph.d.  Then there are others that feel significant by the size of their social media accounts like Twitter and Facebook, tattoos and piercings may express someone’s unique display of significance, while others like to “top” each story with a bigger and better problem, challenge, or experience.  Isn't the display of violence also a “show of significance?”  It is, once again, a personal story, and we all have our own way to display our needs.  For me, it’s more about the motivation behind what we do rather than the actual way we show our significance.  Are our actions “pure of heart” or is it because we don’t feel significant?  Is the motivation to “be better than /or have a one-upmanship” in order to think we are more significant than someone else?  This is a question for us, individually, to decide the motivation behind what we do in order to feel that we matter.  

The fourth basic need is Love and Connection.  “Love is the oxygen of life.  It’s what we all need and want most.  Maybe it’s intimacy, friendship, prayer, being out in nature or a combination of several."  Personally, I think this basic need and the need for significance may go hand in hand.  Hmm.

According to Robbins, these first four are the “needs of the personality.”  These last two are “the needs of the spirit.  Not everyone meets these needs, however, when these are met, we truly feel fulfilled.”

Basic need #5 is Growth.  We've all heard the saying, “If you're not growing, you're dying.”  Why is it some people are constantly feeling a need to learn and grow in at least one area of their life whether it be physical, mental, financial, spiritual etc. while others don't seem to have any “need or desire” to grow and learn? That's something, once again, you can explore your own life and see where you fit. 

The last basic need is Contribution.  “The secret to living is giving.  Life is not about me but it’s about we.”  “Life is really about creating meaning and meaning doesn't come from what you get, it comes from what you give.”  I would add to this that the motivation is pure and not as a martyr.  It is not about giving up of yourself but adding to the overall enhancement of who you are as a human being. The term "giving" is not just referring to monetary means.  You can "give" of your time, your encouragement, your support etc. etc.

I began this blog by telling you about Tony Robbins’ book Money – Master the Game, and yet the six basic needs are part of his introduction to what follows in the rest of the book.  In fact on page 79 Tony explains…””I’m not going to preach to you anymore, but I wanted to take this short time to say that while it’s time to master your money, don’t wait to master yourself.  The fastest way to feel connection, a sense of how significant your life is, a deep sense of certainty and variety, and put yourself in a state where you can give to others, is to find a way, each day, to appreciate more and expect less.  The wealthiest person on earth is one who appreciates.”

I wish you a thought filled week of knowing your own basic needs and finding all the things you appreciate.