I hope you had a week of reflection and a chance to "analyze your soil" in at least one area of your life. Granted this is probably one of the hardest
times of the year to even take 20 minutes for one’s own reflection. The “to do”
list seems endless with little time left before it’s crunch time. Teachers are preparing their classroom for
another school year, coaches are getting ready to welcome their
student/athletes back for another football season, some of you are
preparing for your child’s kindergarten experience or your oldest is getting
ready to head off to college for their first year which also translates into
the entire family beginning something new as well. Needless to say, it’s critical YOU do take
the opportunity, if you haven't already, to reflect and analyze where you are and where you want
to go before moving on.
The past couple months I’ve talked about where you are
in various parts of your life: starting something new, being in the middle, or an
ending of some kind. Then there have been the life lessons you can learn from
our farmers. Lots to think about, but
once again, no matter how much you learn unless there’s ACTION nothing will CHANGE.
As I said last week, the word change may be a word you embrace and it’s a part
of your daily thinking. Others, however, are still fearful as it means things will be
different. Yes, exactly, that’s the
point. How boring would life be if
nothing ever changed? Even listing the
various examples above, change is all around us whether we like it or not. The difference is our mindset – embrace the
change or fight it.
Two young women I have met are currently dealing with
change on a deep, personal level. Both have
had to face the death of their husband in the past year and both have a
son. They are truly an inspiration for
me as I read their FB reflections. Each
has been on a journey of change. Not one
they have chosen, obviously, but a change in every aspect of their life and the
life of their son. Neither woman knows
the other, however, their journey has taken on similar experiences, feelings, with
the path being a difficult one. Their
posts share those times of being scared, the emotional roller coaster of
sadness, positive reflections and memories of their spouse, their celebrations
of their spouse’s life, their life together and their life as parents. Part of their
journey means daily challenges and changes. There is that first year of
“firsts.” How do you deal with the first
birthday with the person gone? The first
Father’s Day? The first Christmas,
Valentines Day? The first anniversary with the person gone? It’s been my observation these two women have
a mindset of overcoming, a mindset of being present with whatever is happening
at the moment, but then also a mindset of moving forward.
What I have also observed, from afar, is both women (1)
take care of themselves so their mind and body can face each day, (2) they
don’t apologize for their feelings rather those feelings are embraced for a
time, (3) they involve and honor their child’s needs and support them on their
journey without their dad, (4) they have a strong support group of friends and
family who they are not afraid to call on for help, and (5) since this is a
process there have also been breakthroughs.
Tony Robbins defines breakthrough as “a moment in time
when the impossible becomes possible…you make a move to truly change and
improve your world.” John Maxwell
describes breakthrough as “handling adversity long enough, having stamina long
enough that there will be a breakthrough.” The analogy is when you’re flying
through thick, dense clouds and visibility is almost zero. Feelings of anxiety, fear, loneliness, begin
to take over. In the middle of these
clouds, it’s hard to see that there will ever be an end. Often times just when it seems to be a never
ending gloominess, change happens. Your mindset changes to one of persistence,
a willingness to never give up, a belief rises.
With this new mindset, your “plane” also begins to rise, and you
breakout into the sunshine. But, guess what? The sun was always there, you just
couldn’t see it through the clouds. YOU took control over what you could
control…your mindset. Maybe it was as simple as your support system gave you a
boost and you were ready to breakthrough.
Things happen that are totally out of our control, but what is in our
control is to not stay in the dense, dark clouds but to rise to reach the
sunshine once again. Both young women
who find themselves as a widow at a very young age, have had many times in the
dark clouds, but I also read about their reflections of hope and passion
resurfacing – their breakthroughs.
What about you?
As you begin this fall with new beginnings, change, I hope you can
reflect on the many breakthroughs you have had just in this past year. With the
breakthrough there is new learning, new skills, new attitudes, new actions etc. The sun is shining and the future looks
bright. If you’re truly one of the 5%,
you realize the clouds of excuses, rationalizing, blame, guilt, and life without gratitude
are only temporary. Though you can’t see
the sun, you know it’s there. What will
you do TODAY to rise above and change your location? Even when we're in the sunshine, there is always a higher place to strive to reach.
I look forward to your comments, and I wish you a
mindset of creating breakthroughs in your life.
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