How
is going "Making Your Holidays More Enjoyable? “ Have you made a
conscious effort to first and foremost take the time to be present and enjoy
your spouse, your children, and friends? As I talked about last week,
it's so easy to get caught up with the "hoop la" and forget what this
season is really all about whether you celebrate Hanukkah or Christmas.
We could focus on all the tragedies in our world today, or we can focus
on what we do have control over and that's only ourselves. What can I do
each and every day to make a difference in my own life and to make a difference
in others' lives?
What
are your expectations for this holiday time?
It seems we hear about so many more issues of domestic violence,
assaults, suicides, drunk-driving etc. taking place during this time of year. Why
is that? Yes, there are people who aren't happy, are taking out their feelings of frustration and inadequacy on family
members or on themselves and this time of year seems to exacerbate those
stressors and challenges. I would
speculate that finances trigger many of these feelings both now and again when
it comes time to pay off all the credit card bills. But what else? Is it the reflection over the past year, and
the realization that once again another year has passed and nothing is really
any different? Is it a focus on all the
things that didn't happen and a poor pitiful me attitude? Is it “looking around” comparing yourself to
others that seem to “have it all together?”
They don't have any of the struggles that you have. Or is it something else? Does any of this ring true for you? What about those people, family and friends,
who you surround yourself with regularly?
I
would suggest a couple ideas to think about. One is that EVERYONE has struggles and challenges of some kind. EVERYONE is dealing with some challenge
whether it be physical, emotional, financial, or spiritual. Even those that look like they have THE
perfect life have some kind of struggle, but we each deal with those challenges
and struggles in our own personal way.
The choice might be to ignore, or deny, or we choose not to focus on the
challenge itself but the lessons being learned along the way. Some “suffer” in silence while others “wear
their struggle on their sleeve” and let everyone around them know they're suffering. A second thought is if the
same feelings are constantly reoccurring then why haven’t you done anything
about them? Is it easier to wallow in misery
and discomfort blaming everyone but ourselves, than it is to take action and
make changes?
Make
this holiday season different than ever before.
Give gifts from your heart that you can afford, make a conscious effort
to let go of a nit picking, exasperated mindset when with a difficult relative,
even if it’s your own spouse, parent, in-law, or sibling. Let go of the judgment, criticism, and
perfect expectations. Come away, this season, with a feeling of
resolve. Maybe it’s watching the
behavior of someone else and making the commitment to never be that way yourself, maybe it’s
looking at being grateful for whatever little things you can find, maybe it’s realizing that if you can be loving and compassionate, you get far more of
the same in return. Maybe the difference
is to let go of that perfect Christmas card picture, sit back and just enjoy.
We
will be spending Christmas with our daughter and her family, and New Years with
our son and his family. I plan to take in each moment fully. So that I
take my own advice, I will be sharing new thoughts and a plan for 2015 in my
next blog which will be January 6th.
I
wish for you a special holiday time that includes: reflection, quiet
moments, and gratitude.
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