For
us to achieve exceptional results in our personal lives, our health, our
emotional and spiritual health, our jobs, our relationships we must learn to
consistently live Above the Line to act purposefully,
intentionally, and skillfully when it matters most.
Were
you able to reflect this past week on your Above the Line behavior
and consciously avoid BCD? I hope so as
this is a huge part of helping ourselves, our families, and all those around us
to be the best they can be.
Many
years ago, I remember Eddie Crowder; former Oklahoma qb standout, CU head
coach, and also CU athletic director told our son, who was going into coaching,
to pay attention to someone’s pedigree. Pedigree? What was Eddie talking about?
He was referring to looking at the people we surround ourselves with and what
they stand for. Were they people of honor and integrity? Were they role models
for others? Did they learn something on a daily basis, and did they own up to
their mistakes?
Looking
at someone’s “pedigree” isn’t just in the coaching field. Haven’t we all
established some sort of “pedigree” of our own throughout our lives? Our
pedigree includes our words, actions, and the path we have followed in all
areas of our lives. We have all put together a “body of work” throughout our
lifetime whether we’re 16, 26, 46, 66+ to create our own pedigree.
I can
definitely say that my “body of work” has changed over the years as experience,
maturity, and life lessons have been a part of my learning and growing. In my
younger years, I was far more interested in pleasing others and not paying
attention to my inner voices. I know
some of my actions were “Below the Line,” and I did spend much more time
blaming, complaining, or defending my actions (BCD). I definitely didn’t embrace
my intuitive strengths until later in life. I was surrounded by people who only
thought facts were important, feelings didn’t count, and therefore, I perceived
myself as “less.”
When
we’re young we are trying to establish ourselves whether it’s as a student, as
an athlete, in our jobs, as a professional, as a parent etc. etc. I think, at a
younger age, we’re far more interested in what others think of us. We are far
more vulnerable to the bullying, the “competition,” and to fit a certain image.
Many of us are not comfortable in our own skin and are therefore, much more
susceptible to the “trying to fit in” mind set.
On
top of a natural sense of learning about who we are at our core, add to that the
additional stress brought on by all the social media challenges. People are
very quick to judge, comment on things that have no relevance to their life but
they have to make a statement, and MANY are done anonymously. People hide
behind that anonymity and have some sort of a need to make a derogatory comment
about someone or something. Really? Is that the only thing they can do with
their time?
I’m
not talking about stating your own opinion about something you believe in such
as standing when we hear the national anthem. Much was posted on FB and Twitter
about Colin Kaepernick’s choice to sit during the national anthem before a
pre-season game. Social media definitely took off with that and people weighed
in with their opinions. That part, I have no problems with. What I do have a
problem with is the name calling, the horrible comments layered with
expletives, and so much more. Now that everything goes viral things are given
attention that never would have a few years ago.
I am
definitely very proud to be an American. I don’t agree with Collin but I feel
he has the right to do and say what he wants as long as it isn’t harmful to
someone else. Unfortunately, he’s getting a lot of attention because of the
internet and social media. What I would ask of all of us is to take our frustrations
and criticisms and take action that will be solution oriented. We have
the freedom to do something that will make a difference.
The
challenges our children have in raising our grandchildren is far more complex
because of this viral world. Can’t part of our pedigree be modeling and
teaching others about community service, donating our money and/or time to a
cause, and giving back to others less fortunate? Isn’t that far more effective
than posting hateful words and threats on the internet? Isn't teaching our children to be proactive and solution oriented more effective than criticism and hurtful comments?
So how
do we help our children, grandchildren, and even ourselves establish a
“pedigree” that will establish a strong, healthy mindset and a strong, healthy
“body of work” which will create a world we all want to live in and be a part
of?
First
and foremost, we must take action, on a daily basis, to live a set of core
values that are important to each of us. For me, those core values are focused
on living a life “Above the Line.” That means stepping up and taking action
with a specific intent, a specific purpose, and without any BCD. Something that
Urban Meyer wrote in his book, Above the Line, really spoke to me,
“Relentless effort (not
talent or intelligence) is the key to achieving great things in life. Struggle
is a part of the process. It is hard and painful. But it’s also necessary,
because it’s in the struggle that great things are achieved. Do you decide what
to do based on what is comfortable and convenient, or based on what is
productive and necessary? Following your passion isn’t always 100% pleasurable.
Sometimes it means doing things you don’t want to do for the sake of achieving
your goals.”
I
would challenge you to think about the “body of work” you have put together
over the years to create your own pedigree. Do you have a set of core values
that are Above the Line? Do you use social media to benefit others? Do
you never do something anonymously? Do you have opinions that you’re comfortable
“voicing” yet also understand that it’s ok for others to disagree with you? Do
you stand up for someone who’s being bullied, harassed, or being targeted? Do
you live your life with a purpose? Do you stop yourself every time you find
yourself falling into the blaming, complaining, or defending your actions
instead of taking ownership for something you said or did?
Once
again, I wish you a week of reflection on what you stand for as you live your
daily life. What is your “body of work” as you create your own pedigree?
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