What is it that makes a difference in how people handle
adversity? That’s the million dollar
question. I continue to be amazed at the number of people who, despite the fact
they have health issues, choose to not do anything about it. It might be they've been diagnosed with diabetes, rheumatoid arthritis, asthma, heart disease, high
cholesterol or they have weight problems with the list continuing on and on. If they would only change their eating and/or
beverage choice they could lose that extra weight, their heart problems could
be more controlled, their cholesterol levels could be reduced, their chance of
various cancers could be reduced etc. etc. etc.
But…they don’t make those changes or do anything different.
The reactions to the various health issues range from trying something
for a short time then they revert back to the same old – same old, being angry,
blaming, depression, an attitude of denial, or even just ignoring the problem
altogether, believing that this is just their “lot in life,” or even the excuse that it's what you have to deal with when you get older.
Personally, none of these excuses make any sense to me,
but that’s my judgment. My belief is if
there’s a way to live the life God has blessed me with, why would I not do
whatever it takes? Yes, I was diagnosed
with rheumatoid arthritis at age 36. I did go through the “why me?” stage, the
angry stage, the depression stage, and I even tried to push through the pain thinking
that this was just a phase. And where
did that get me? NOWHERE. I saw too many
people with the same disease that didn't do anything and were in constant pain,
on high levels of meds with their own side effects, and had very disfigured
hands and feet. I made a conscious
decision to NOT be a victim.
So how did I move forward? First of all, I gathered information from dietitians, nutritionists, occupational therapists, chiropractors, specialists,
and physical therapists. I also read a lot of books, articles, and
testimonials. I needed to take
control of MY life, make choices of
what works for my body, and most importantly move forward. In all this, I had to make the decision what
I was willing to do and what was not something I would consider. For example, a rheumatologist specialist told
me I needed to start on liquid gold. Liquid gold?! NO! When I
asked him if there was anything I could do nutritionally he told me it wouldn't make any difference. WRONG! So, needless to say, I didn't go back to that specialist. We do not have to accept
some of the recommendations that rather than focusing on the solution only
continue the problem and may even add more problems. A nutritionist told me to “listen to my body”
and learn what my body needed. First of
all, that made sense to me, second I had to learn how to listen to my
body, and third I had to pay attention to the signals my body was trying to
tell me.
The past 26 years have been a process, paying attention,
and for me, learning the triggers to the pain.
I had to commit to giving myself a shot once a week of a drug. Not what I wanted to do, but the goal has
been to reduce that amount. But what
else can I do? My trigger was stress. I
spent a year trying to get my body back without pain. There have been ups and downs, but I knew
what it was like to not be in pain, so I focused on getting back to being pain
free. I realized I had slacked off
paying attention to my eating habits, I also wasn't exercising, and I
definitely needed to do some work on my own attitude. I was allowing negative words from others
“get to me.” That only added to my stress level. I wasn't letting go of the
fact that there was my reality and there was someone else’s good intentions for
me . Because of a self-development
weekend that Jon and I went to with author and speaker, Jim Britt, I began to learn
to truly listen to my body. Previously,
I wasn't aware of the power our thoughts have on our health. I also learned the process of totally letting
go of negative thoughts, actions from others, etc. I learned to understand
that I could only do what was in my control, and it was not my job to
change someone else’s view. I could
share my thoughts, educate if necessary, and yet allow them to have their
thoughts and beliefs too. What I wasn't willing to do was to “buy into” their views and opinions.
With my last crisis now 17 years behind me, I can say I
only have a few days with some pain. I
am consistently working out five to six days a week, cardio and strength
training are a part of the workout, I am constantly learning more about health
and nutrition and putting that learning into practice. We have a meal replacement shake in the
morning that is more for the good nutrients, our NutriBullet drinks at lunch
are filled with spinach, fruit, and gold flaxseed, we’re aware of our portion
sizes since our bodies change with age, we’re taking specific supplements from
companies that are focused on clean and healthy ingredients, and I've discovered an incredible product that focuses on inflammation of ANY type. That product is what allows me, for the first time, to
begin to reduce my medication amount. Another
key component is I’m paying close attention to my thoughts and attitude. There is a huge connection between our bodies
and our minds. During more stressful
times, I have to first be conscious of the type of thoughts running through my
head. For the negative ones, I ask
myself the question, “Is this my need for control or acceptance?” I will go through the “letting go” process I
learned from Jim Britt, I remind myself that what I focus on expands - negative
or positive (thanks to Jim Rohn), and sometimes I just have to “Let go and Let
God.”
This is all a process, it’s a journey, but most of all
it is a decision. I WILL NOT be a
victim. I AM in control of my life. I AM
blessed with the life God has given me. My
story is about rheumatoid arthritis, but there are other stories out
there. I just finished a book by Jay
Leeuwenburg, Yes I Can! Yes, YOU Can!
It’s a book where Jay “tackles diabetes and wins.” He was 12 years old when he was first
diagnosed with Type 1 diabetes and “through self-discipline and self-reliance
overcame the odds to achieve pro football stardom and admiration of
America.” Jay was a high school
All-Stater, was a University of Colorado Buff and All-American, as well as a
9-year NFL starter. From the beginning,
even at age 12, Jay took control of the diagnosis of diabetes. And a crucial part of that journey was the
role his family played. “From the get-go,”
explains Jay’s brother, Chris, “we were really immersed in it as a family. It was a lifestyle. We knew, to be successful, it was something
you did as a family.” Don’t we all need a team around us for support? It was especially amazing to me to read Jay’s
words to his mother as a 12 year old, “Mom, I had a talk with myself. He said he told himself, ‘Hey, I can accept
this and get on with my life, or I can fight it, and say, “This isn't happening
to me, and woe is me.” He made a
personal resolve, right then and there, to get on with his life.” He continually says, throughout the book,
that “this is the life I was dealt, I’m going to make the best of it.” Diabetes was NOT going to define him.
The book continues through Jay’s life as a 12 year old
diagnosed with diabetes, through the challenges of playing sports, the
challenges of having to take control of his life and not depend on others to
always have the correct information, and to educate those around him. Even in the NFL, he relates a story of being
dehydrated and being given a 20% dextrose IV.
That is NOT the answer when you’re diabetic. Jay, himself, realized the mistake and forced
the trainers to give him one with saline.
The stories and his journey are a fascinating read. The disappointments, the uneducated views
about diabetics, the need to constantly monitor his blood sugar levels – 25
times during a game – his “giving back” which has impacted so many children’s
lives who have diabetes and especially those who want to play sports, his role
not only as an NFL player but a husband, father, and now elementary teacher all
have a common theme. Set goals, no
excuses, learn to deal with your own personal challenges in your life, never
give up, and “If you put the effort in, if you’re committed, if you’re
educated, it you take the necessary steps, you will succeed.”
Isn't that the message no matter what our challenges
might be? After all, disappointments,
loses in a football game, a diagnosis we’d rather not deal with, ignorance,
conflicts, family issues etc. are part of that journey we call LIFE. Will you be one of the 5% that takes control
and makes changes in both a healthy body and a healthy mind? Or will you fall into the 95% that does
nothing and ignores the truth? I wish
for you to be one of the 5%!!!
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