Showing posts with label Defending America. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Defending America. Show all posts

Wednesday, October 11, 2017

W.O.R.K. is not a Four Letter Word

Last week I wished you a week to revisit the last few weeks of blogs and examine your personal development habits etc. I also wished you a time to look back and examine your personal work history. What were your jobs and what life lessons did you learn from each situation?

The third lesson in Defending America relates to the topic of work which I wrote about last week. As with all my blogs, these are my thoughts and opinions. Lesson Three is titled, “Defending Work as the Basis of Freedom and Opportunity from the Dependency, Welfare, and Bureaucratic State of Tyranny of the Left.”

I found this lesson to be enlightening. I will be quoting many of the statements from this series which is led by Newt Gingrich. I ask that you read, reflect, question, and come up with your own opinion. (I would recommend this entire series on six different topics as it’s historically based.)

“The Left is replacing the distinctly American ethos of individual initiative and opportunity with a growing culture of dependency and welfare – to a devastating effect as seen in poverty rates, shockingly low workforce participation rates, the opioid crisis, and other measures alongside the dramatic growth of the welfare state.”

“Hard work, individual initiative and opportunity have always been critical to the American system and linked to our free market principles…” We believe in the American Dream, nothing is impossible if we put in our own hard work. We believe in the fact anyone from any walk of life CAN create a successful life for themselves and their family.

There are others who will tell you that you’re limited because of your race, the fact you’re female, or you’re from the “wrong side of the tracks.” Have you paid attention to people like Dr. Ben Carson who grew up in a single parent family, low income, yet had his mother’s voice of encouragement pushing him to be his very best, and she instilled the belief that he could accomplish anything he wanted?

The number of “overcoming the odds” type stories are too numerous to mention.
One common denominator in who becomes successful and who doesn’t appears to come from the individual’s willingness to do whatever it takes to reach his/her goals. That meant a strong work ethic, a never quit attitude, it was not listening to people who were toxic and naysayers, that meant being willing to do whatever to get to the next level as long as it was legal, moral, and ethical.

What’s your work history? What have you done to gain experience and create your own financial independence?

Henry Ford stated, “Work is the salvation of the human race, morally, physically, socially.” Ben Franklin advised immigrants: “People do not inquire concerning a Stranger, What is he? But, What can he DO?”

Why is it then that we seem to be having such a difficult time getting people to work? It doesn’t matter whether I’m in St. Louis, or Ulysses, KS, or anywhere in Boulder or Longmont, I see signs of businesses hiring. Yet, at the same time, standing on a corner are young; able bodied men and women wanting a handout. True, I don’t know their story. Yet when I see the same people “parked” on similar corners with their signs week in and week out, I want to know why. It’s my personal judgement, yet I can’t help but wonder why they don’t walk the couple blocks and apply for a job that would put money in their pocket.

I’ve always been a person who is willing to help others who are not as fortunate. I donate items and money to a variety of organizations, we donated a much larger some of money to the Red Cross with all the hurricanes and we are willing to support our young relatives earning money to travel to their soccer games, being able to participate in a trip to DC for a history class, or funding an outdoor education experience. I can do that because I do have an income, and I choose to put money each month into a Give fund.

Jon and I have housed over 30 young people in our home (without payment) anywhere from a couple months to a couple years with the sole intent of helping them during a time they needed extra support. I don’t say this to brag, but I say this to show I have choices because I do have an income. I do want to help others, and I feel a sense of pride when I see them go on and do something with their lives.

Here’s my difficulty with our current environment. We have a welfare system that was originally set up to be for a short time to help people through tough times. It was originally NOT set up to be a lifestyle or an expected income. Unfortunately, that is NOT the case today.

Benjamin Franklin: “I think the best way of doing good to the poor, is not making them easy in poverty, but leading or driving them out of it…The less that’s done for them, the more they do for themselves, and became richer.”
Abraham Lincoln: “Let not him who is houseless pull down the house of another; but let him labor diligently and build one for himself.”
Franklin D. Roosevelt: “…continued dependence upon relief induces a spiritual disintegration fundamentally destructive to the national fiber. It is in violation of the traditions of America. Work must be found for able-bodied but destitute workers. The Federal Government must and shall quit this business of relief….We must preserve not only the bodies of the unemployed from destitution but also their self-respect, their self-reliance, their courage and determination.”
The Bible says: “If you give a man a fish, he will eat today, but teach a man to fish and he will eat forever.”

“America’s relief programs have traditionally been based on developing personal strength, with an emphasis on faith.” 

My personal philosophy is focused on helping people take control of their lives so they have that sense of self-worth, that pride, that sense of ownership for something they have earned, built, and/or developed. In 1997, Temporary Assistance for Needy Families (TANF), a welfare reform program, was developed. It included time limits, work requirements, and other provisions incentivizing people to get off welfare and lead productive and fulfilling lives by giving states a waiver if they had alternative plans to promote work/job preparation.

“During the 2012 presidential election, a slideshow was released called, “The Life of Julia.” This depicted a vision of the government taking “care” (control, in my opinion) of you from the beginning to the end of your life. This is definitely a philosophical argument between the Left and the Right.
The Left “believes that throwing redistributed money at citizens will fix problems. However, here are some interesting statistics:

*welfare programs grew from less than $9bn (1.3% of GDP) to $324bn (5% GDP) in 1933 to $927bn (6% of GDP) in 2011

*1965-2013, government spent $22tn (inflation-adjusted) on means-tested welfare programs—more than three times the cost of all military wars in the history of the US

*In 2013 a single mother of two was eligible for benefits equivalent of a job paying per-hour $16.96 in CA, $18.27 in NY, and $20.44 in MA which equates to between $35K and $42.5K per year.” (This doesn’t take into account state, county, and municipal benefits.)

Unfortunately, the way welfare was structured under TANF is no longer the case especially when it comes to time limits and work requirements. The way our welfare system is now structured DISCOURAGES opportunity, self-reliance, and ultimately getting OFF government support. Currently, there is no work requirement if you’re an able-bodied individual. SAD! Currently, couples are PENALIZED for marrying as they will lose benefits! SAD!

Social scientists Robert Rector and William Lauber explain, “The current welfare system may be conceptualized best as a system which offers each single mother a ‘paycheck’…She will continue to receive her ‘paycheck’ as long as she fulfills two conditions: (1) she must NOT work; and (2) she must not marry an employed male…(Welfare) has converted the low-income working husband from a necessary breadwinner into a net financial handicap. It has transformed marriage from a legal institution designed to protect and nurture children into an institution that financially penalizes nearly all low-income parents who enter into it.”

Think about that. Reread the above paragraph one more time. Now think about what’s been happening to our low-income families. All in the name of “taking care of you” this system doesn’t allow for our single moms or disenfranchised dads to have a purpose, to have a Why, to pursue the American Dream.

With the philosophy that government will take care of all of us, it may sound good - originally. However, it “cripples the most vulnerable.” This welfare state actually “breaks up families, minimizes incentives to work, blocks people from saving and purchasing property, and takes away the American Dream. The current welfare system, “overshadows dreams of a promised future with a present despair born of poverty, violence, and hopelessness.”

Dr. Ben Carson has been criticized for saying that the housing for able-bodied groups of people need not be comfortable. He specifically stated he is NOT referring to the disabled, the mentally-ill, or those unable to work. His point is to not make things so comfortable that they will never want to leave. The focus should be to help people get back on their feet not to enable them forever.

If you receive a Habitat for Humanity home there are specific guidelines:

·       Applicant must complete at least 400 hours of sweat equity towards the building of Habitat homes. ...
·       Applicant must be willing to live in a neighborhood in which Habitat is currently building;
·       Applicant must be willing to attend required workshops for success in homeownership.
These guidelines establish a “buy in” by the recipients.

Have you ever been a part of a project to build a playground for a school? Have you ever been a part of a project that develops gardens for community members who don’t have land in order to be able to plant, grow, and harvest their own crops? Have you ever had your children, students etc. purchase gifts for underprivileged children during the holiday season using money they have earned themselves? Have you ever set up a GIVE jar with money your children get from birthdays, work they’ve done, allowances etc. and then they get to choose where and who they want to GIVE their money to?

What I believe is the ‘buy-in”, the connection, the feeling of pride is far greater than anything that is just handed to them.

In this lesson from Defending America, Newt states, “The greatest failure of the welfare state was its direct and indirect undermining of personal strength…the actual effect of the welfare state is to weaken and cripple the poor…the regulations discourage work, which undermines perseverance, discipline, and responsibility.” There is no satisfaction and sense of pride that getting a paycheck you worked for will give. There is nothing like hearing encouragement from a job well done!

What can we do? We can make sure we are truly teaching our children, grandchildren, employees etc. etc. to be independent, helping them develop their personal strengths, we can instill and model a positive work ethic, and we can teach them that God has made each of us to be successful in our own life’s journey. We can teach them there IS an American Dream for ALL people and their hopes and dreams are important and are attainable!! It’s an abundance mentality NOT a scarcity mentality.

My business mentor sent me a postcard that I look at each day:

“You don’t need permission to chase the dreams God has put in your heart.”

I may have totally challenged your belief system this week. My position is for each and every one of us to be all that God has created us to be! We can take control of our lives with a sense of purpose, hope, and a strong conviction to take an active part in building the life WE want to build NOT what the government says we can or can’t build.

I wish you a week of reflection.



Wednesday, October 4, 2017

What's YOUR Story


Before starting this week’s blog, I want to send out prayers to all the first responders; the medical profession, those families who have lost loved ones in this horrific human tragedy, and those who are recovering. I also send prayers to the people who survived having lived through a horrible, life changing experience, and prayers for the city of Vegas as they push forward to recover together.

Some of the comments and/or tweets being made by the media, a teacher, and even a high ranking CBS executive are beyond reprehensible. What? 59 AMERICANS were murdered with 512+ AMERICANS injured. 

I am more and more fearful of the divisiveness this country has moved toward. The pure HATE for this President, the justification for violence when someone's opinion is different, the lack of balanced coverage with the media, students needing safe spaces, and the drive to separate us the exact situation Martin L. King fought against.

Through my blogs, I have tried to focus on each of us being in control of our lives and to have a grateful spirit. I continue to advocate for EACH of us, personally, to learn and grow to better ourselves in all areas of our lives. I do not pretend to have all the answers, I want people to question, to research using a variety of sources, and to not blindly accept what they hear and read as fact. 

Last week, I wished you a week of reflecting on who you are associating with, and therefore who is also influencing you? Did you take the time to reflect on whether your words and actions are truly coming from your heart OR are they because you are wanting control, acceptance, or both? What did you learn?

There are many issues facing our country today that should be up for debate and discussions. Unfortunately, our free speech; which I will address in a couple weeks, is under attack as well. There seem to be more "tweet wars" and "attacks" on Facebook any time a different perspective is given. 

I fear there is a deeper and even more devastating cause for where we are today. We have a younger generation, who live each day without hope or purpose. They have not been brought up with the American Dream mentality. They have not been brought up learning what this great country has done for so many generations and why this country is like no other country in the world, and they have no sense of purpose. 

Two books; The iY Generation, and Start with Why, along with a session from the Defending America series have all contributed to the next two week’s topics of my blog. Because I have spent a great deal of time reflecting on this; and I am sharing my personal thoughts, I will be breaking this blog segment into two parts.

Most of you are aware I enjoy reading and growing on a personal level. That has not always been the case. When I was younger, I was not exposed to the personal development books primarily because they were not as plentiful as they are now. I only had my own opinions based on my experiences and the family and friends around me. I didn’t understand why I often felt different about topics or situations, as I had little to compare things to, and I was not comfortable with who I was as a person. Therefore, yes, I did succumb to wanting to be accepted and usually kept my mouth shut.

Early in my teaching career, my reading material was either fictional books we used in the classroom or materials to enhance my teaching techniques. There was little, if any, personal development focus. When looking back on my career and when I began reading personal development books, I became more aware of why some of the teaching teams I was on were more effective than others. The successful team teaching situations were with people where we shared the same goals and objectives, we could disagree on how we were going to reach our goals but NEVER on WHY we were doing what we were doing. We honored each other for our individual skills and talents, and we were never competing for who was “the best” – it wasn’t about us it was ALL about the students.  I woke up each morning with a purpose and an excitement. The challenges and road blocks were there, yet my driving focus of WHY I was teaching was always there.

That sense of purpose each day was and is critical for ALL people. I will touch more on that later.

It was later in my career when Jon and I were exposed to network marketing which had a strong component of personal development. We started reading books and listening to tapes (yes, cassette tapes) as we drove into work. We both found we were learning how to deal with situations with all communities in our sphere of work in a very different way. In addition, we were also learning how to be a better individual, a better marriage partner, a better parent. We were learning that our physical, emotional, financial, and spiritual health were all important.

According to Simon Sinek in his book Start with Why, “there are two ways to influence human behavior; you can manipulate it or you can inspire it.” Most often, we don’t know what we don’t know, and it isn’t until we search out information that we can begin to develop who we are, what we stand for, and what we believe is God’s path for us. That doesn’t happen unless we understand WHY we do what we do. WHY is a belief system. HOW will guide our actions to realize the belief, and WHAT is the results of our actions. “If the focus is more on WHAT at the expense of WHY, our ability to thrive and inspire is dubious.”

I spent the first half of this blog, outlining my own journey of learning and growing as a human being. My point is that we don’t learn and grow in isolation, we don’t learn and grow without being challenged on WHY we think the way we do, we don’t learn and grow if we don’t have a purpose in our life, and we definitely are not willing to learn and grow if we blame, complain, and defend our actions pointing the finger at everyone else rather than how we contributed to the situation. That’s called owning up to our words, actions, and choices – ACCOUNTABILITY.

Before I go on, I want to be clear that I look with respect and admiration at my young grandchildren; my nieces and nephews, their teenage children, the young people on our team who are building a business to better themselves. They are THE best when it comes to respect, they have strong work ethics, they have different opinions on topics yet can have a conversation with those who are different, and they are welcoming to people from different backgrounds. I go to personal development seminars and there’s only a common bond of wanting personal financial freedom and learning to be their best as a human being – there is no color, religious, or sexual orientation labeling!

On the other hand, I am disappointed to observe a segment of our young people with an entitlement attitude whose personal beliefs seem absent and are just regurgitating what they hear from the group think of their friends. The book iY Generation explains the effect of video games, being given everything without a clear sense of purpose, and with no true guidelines for success when they grew up with the participation medal mentality versus an actual first, second, third etc. placement. We taught this generation that everyone needs to feel special all the time which ultimately made no one feel special. Failure has been looked upon as a negative versus a learning tool. Our young people have been disabled by not being exposed to differing viewpoints and have seldom been allowed the opportunity to learn how to debate and question. It’s difficult to have a discussion by texting.

Now our liberal colleges are deciding which speakers the students should hear and even setting up “safe spaces” with coloring books etc. if the students’ feelings are hurt by differing viewpoints. The “safe spaces” and therapy sessions were set up for those unable to handle the outcome of the Presidential election.  Even worse, violence is the only action with groups such as Antifa. They believe that because they disagree with a differing viewpoint it’s their right to commit violence. Lectures on campus, town hall meetings, peaceful demonstrations have all been hijacked by those whose tactic is to shout down someone else’s right to speak and commit violence against someone that would have the audacity to voice something which they disagree. 

In the minds of Antifa, it’s justified to physically attack a person, physically damage buildings, businesses, set fires or exclude a certain group. Unfortunately, these are also the young people who have little understanding of a work ethic, are still living at home because they haven’t found the perfect job they think they deserve, drugs are often involved, these young people have no idea of "self" and what they stand for. 

I keep hearing from teachers, coaches, business people about an entitlement attitude and lack of any type of work ethic. Think about how you grew up. Did you have a job? How young were you with your first job? Were you responsible for paying for some of your activities such as going to the movies, bowling, or putting gas in the car? My guess is the natural consequence was that if you didn’t have the money you weren't able to do something or buy something. Did you work through college and/or did you pursue getting scholarships and grants to reduce the cost? In your job were you expected to arrive on time and were you expected to complete some menial tasks such as cleaning up? Were you expected to come dressed in a clean, kept manner etc? Did you ever have to interview for a job and were there others also interviewing for that same position? Did you ever play a sport and someone else was competing for that same position?

My point is that having work experience teaches you about the world and life which includes; doing whatever it takes to get a job done despite your “title,” it means following certain expectations of your boss, it means showing up on time, it means you need to learn to work with a team of people that may be different than you. It leads to a sense of focus that everything you are learning is all about becoming a positive contributor to your own life, the life of your family and those around you. YOU can be in control of your future. When people are working they gain a sense of self, a sense of purpose, and a sense of pride and value to what it is they’re doing.

I wish you a week to revisit the last few weeks of blogs and examine your personal development habits etc. I also wish you this next week to look back and examine your personal work history story. What were your jobs and what life lessons did you learn from each situation?